Episode 11

EP 11 Integrating the Spiritual- Part 3: Parenting and Family

Published on: 21st June, 2023
  • Connection Card Question
  • Deanna: 27 years of parenting (2 kids: 1 girl, 1 boy)
  • Lauren: 12 years of parenting (3 kids: all boys)
  • What was the biggest shift in your parenting? What would you tell yourself 10 years ago based on what you know now?
  • Parenting from Biblical principles vs legalism (“the do’s and don'ts”)
  • Raising “ministry kids” vs kids with a ministry heart
  • Submission to authority vs rules make you spiritual
  • Full time step mom experience
  • Kids are all different, raising them differently
  • Becoming a Christian and a mom at the same time
  • Discipling your kids vs raising them
  • Stewarding your kids as a gift from the Lord
  • What is your goal for your kids?
  • Looking at your kids (if they are saved) as fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, children of God
  • Presenting the Gospel to your children
  • American Dream fueled parenting vs Gospel fueled parenting
  • Establishing the authority of Scripture in your home
  • Spiritual conversations with your kids, not just disciplinary conversations
  • God knows your heart as a parent
  • Heart parenting vs behavior parenting
  • Your faithfulness or faithlessness can rub off on your kids
  • Dealing with shame, guilt and failure in parenting
  • The Father is faithful and good to your kids even when you are not
  • Losing your temper with your kids
  • Asking for forgiveness from your kids
  • Teaching your kids that your failures as a parent do not reflect God, He is the best and perfect Father for them
  • Humility with your kids
  • Your relationship with God will directly impact your relationships with your kids
  • Asking God to help you, giving Him the responsibility of raising your kids through you
  • Let expectations go
  • Be the same person in the home that you are outside of it
  • Don’t fake your spirituality 
  • Kids aren’t stupid
  • Be honest with your kids
  • Tell your kids your salvation testimony and spiritual growth looks like
  • The goal: that your kids will love God and to love others
  • The “busy” parents create for their kids in hopes of having it “all”
  • Prioritizing the spiritual in your families schedule
  • If you must be “busy”, be busy serving and loving the Lord and His people with your kids
  • The world’s constant pull of spending all of our money and time on ourselves and the pleasures this life has to offer our families
  • Pray real prayers with your kids
  • Peer pressure….from other parents
  • Be gracious with other parents in their parenting styles
  • Parents: know your spiritual gifts, serve the Lord WITH your kids
  • Kids are not a bible reason to stop serving the Lord
  • Your secret spiritual disciplines do not go unnoticed by your kids
  • KIDS LISTEN UP
  • Parents are human beings just trying to do their best, cut them some slack
  • The shift of realizing your parents are human like you
  • When your kids are totally different from each other, how to discipline them differently
  • “You don’t want fair”
  • Learning your kids in real time, they don’t come with care instructions
  • God made each kid as an individual to glorify Him
  • The First and Second Commandments
  • Your kids are God’s first
  • Making big life decisions for your kids with spiritual motives
  • Teaching your kids to love God and to be loved by Him
  • Kids identify themselves by what their parents prioritize
  • Kids, your parents have to answer for how they are choosing to raise your in front of God one day, give them some grace
  • Fun Cup Question!

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Three Generations
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Lauren Henriques

Lauren moved to to a small South Carolina town with her family three years ago to be closer to the mountains, so she thought. Unbeknownst to her, God had some bigger plans to deepen her passionate pursuit of Christ by propelling her forward in her understanding of the word of God through a local church. Lauren has always been a passionate, fun-loving, energetic encourager at her core! She has been zealously pursuing a relationship with Jesus Christ for just over 14 years after He saved her from a life rooted in recklessness and addiction. She now serves on the Women's Ministry team at her local church as the Media coordinator and continues to hone her skills and learn how to become a bible teacher in her local community. Lauren also owns and operates a small media company where she takes advantage of the opportunity to share Christ with people who may never ordinarily step foot through the doors of a church. She uses every opportunity she can to love God and love people passionately.